Welcome to What Is It That You Don't Understand?!?! This is a space dedicated to subjects focusing on what's wrong with modern male/female relations and what steps can be taken to improve on them. Topics will include singlehood and marriage. Not to mention the dangers of premarital sex and out of wedlock births to both individuals and society.
Here's some background about myself, however, I will try to keep self-blogs to a minimum, since this is about helping others. I have been married since 2003. No kids. Two dogs. I tend to lean to the right at times and to the left at times but, to be sure, I am right leaning as far as male/female relationships are concerned. I am an anti-feminist. Men and women are different, however, feminism has basically succeeded in duping women that men are just the same as women and want exactly the same things at the same time. Some similarities, but, by and large, different and it is wrong for one to expect the other to automatically understand why he/she does what he/she does.
A preview:
I am against premarital sex. Men will not marry if sex is cheap and widely available. Premarital sex leads to out of wedlock births. Children from single parent home are more likely to commit crime. Every night when you watch the news, story after story about some un/underparented teenager breaking into someone's home or robbing a gas station. More likely than not, that child is a product of a single parent home. All children need and deserve a two parent home with mom and dad married. Disclaimer: I was not a virgin when I married, and I regret it. If I waited until I was married for sex, it would have saved me a lot of unnecessary drama in my life.
Men should be men. Too many of our men are either feminized manchildren afraid to open a door for a woman or a bunch of street thugs ready to pounce on any female that walks past them. Turn off the Playstations and Sportscenter, go out and ask women out on dates. Care for a woman and any children that they produce after marriage. Go to the gym and work on your bodies. Physically strong men are extremely masculine. Be intelligent. Don't have a media diet that mainly consists of sports and cars. Exercise delayed gratification. Learn basic home repair.
Women should be women. Stop competing with your dates/boyfriends/fiances/husbands. Dress nice. I am not saying break out the burkas, but don't dress skanky. Learn how to keep a house. Let men open doors, pull out chairs, and do the heavy lifting for you. He pays for the date. This doesn't put you in a place of weakness. When a man is chivalrous, he is treating you like a lady. No sex until you are married. Be hard to get, not cheap and easily available. Be intelligent. Don't have a media diet that mainly consists of Cosmo magazine and Days of Our Lives. Hit the gym to stay or get into shape.
Husbands are the head of marriages. This isn't to say that women are less intelligent than men. Men are the natural protectors of women. When the husband is in the place of headship, if he makes the final decision and is wrong, he is to protect her with everything he's got from his bad judgment. Husband must ask for the input of their wives since it is a marriage after all, but he has the sometimes dreadful task of bearing a huge burden if he comes to the incorrect conclusion. If he makes the right call, then all is well.
Men are not better that women and vice versa. Men are better at certain things than women and women are better at certain things than men. Nothing wrong with that. That's why men and women belong together. We compliment each other.
Wives must make themselves sexually available to their husbands. Husbands have only one valid choice for their sexual satisfaction: their wives. While, unfortunately, sex is so widely available, it still remains the point for males to marry. The average husband does love his wife, but he needs marital sex to ultimately bond him to her. Wives, bear in mind that if you constantly turn down your husband sexually, he will withdraw emotionally. Refused husbands may even start to take away from their refusing wives date nights, gifts, flowers, romance in general, the things that wives typically cherish in marriage. And, of course, he may turn outside the marriage for sex. It is a dangerous thing to sexually starve a husband. Is it right for him to cheat? No, but that's reality. Only if he is a total tool (abusive sexually, verbally, physically, financially), that he is to be refused, and left.
Husbands must spend quality time with their wives outside the bedroom. Just because you got the ring on her finger doesn't mean that their courting and dating is over and it's all about you having unlimited sex. As a matter of fact, it's time to step it up a notch, especially now that you are having sex with her. Whatever the things that the husband did to get her are the same things that the husband will have to do to keep her. Don't all of a sudden forget the directions to her favorite restaurant. What is her favorite flower? She must be wowed inside and outside the bedroom. In other words, wives also must have reasons to stay around. If a husband only gives his wife attention when he wants sex, she very well may seek love and attention outside of her marriage. If she gets the love and attention from another man, she very well end up in a sexual relationship with that man. It is a dangerous thing to emotionally starve a wife. Is it right for her to cheat? No, but that's reality.
There will be no discussion of politics on this blog. I've come to the conclusion that online political discussions turn otherwise rational people into raging lunatics. No politics allowed. Period.
That's it for now. I will admit that this first post is on the sloppy side, but whatever. As I come up with topics, I shall post. If you already have a request for a topic, feel free to contact me.